Fail your way to success

What is your definition of success?

Who do you look at as a successful businessman, successful sports performer, actor, celebrity or even a successful family role model?

Failure is good
How many times did you fail today?

In today’s world of instant gratification and the wonderful filters of social media it’s easy to be manipulated into thinking that success is out of your grasp. The dream of a life of excitement, adventure, fulfilment and happiness, remains just a dream and so you make the decisions to settle for something much less than you really want. You go for the “safe” option, the easy job, the comfortable existence, the slightly boring relationship, the acceptable house and the OK life when deep down you know that this isn’t the life that you really crave.

You can fail doing what you don’t want, so you may as well go after what you do.

So many people don’t even bother trying because they see others doing so well in a way that feels so out of reach from their current reality that they decide that there’s no point in even attempting to pursue their dreams.

Herein lies the huge problem.

It is my belief that through fear of judgement by others, we often decide that it is better to avoid something challenging altogether rather than try and fail. If the chances of success are so slim then why even bother trying? The truth is that in any area of life, a certain amount of failure is inevitable. We cannot control the external events that lead to this failure, only the way in which we respond to them.

It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you fail by default. J.K Rowling

Life isn’t about accepting something less than you truly want, it’s about pushing for the best. It’s about realising your true potential and becoming the best possible version of yourself.

This doesn’t mean more money and more material possessions, they may be nice to start with but they won’t ultimately make you happy.

It’s about being the best son or daughter you can be, the best parent, aunty or uncle, the perfect partner, the reliable friend, the friendly neighbour or just the positive person that you want to meet. It’s about having a vision for what you want for your life and for the lives of those that are most important to you and setting out to achieve that. It’s about getting knocked down and getting back up to push on when times get tough.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. Wayne Gretzky

The path to success is not a straight line and there is no fixed route for everyone to take. It will be constantly changing and challenging and that’s the joy of it! When we take the easy path we learn nothing about ourselves, nothing about others and nothing about how we can grow and improve.

The key to your health and fitness success is to embrace failure. If you are going to change your body then you need to train it to the point of failure in order for your body to make the physical changes. You need to embrace the pain and recognise that when it starts to get tough that’s when you need to hang in there a little bit longer and make those last few repetitions count.

I don’t count my sit-ups, I only start counting when it starts hurting. Mohammed Ali

Failure is good for you
Failure at the weights rack means success at the mirror

Failure teaches us so much. It gives us a chance to evaluate where we went wrong and what we need to improve about ourselves and our current circumstances in order to make things better. Failure gives us an opportunity to learn so much about our current situation and what is really important to us. It also teaches us who really matters in our lives. Everyone wants to be your friend when you’re a success but the people who are most important will show up as the ones that stick around through the dark days. Failure teaches us to be humble and appreciate what we already have, it shows and who and what is really important in our lives and ultimately what makes us truly happy.

This is why we have to fail as much and as often as we can!